Who really runs the world?
I know Beyonce sang that girls run the world but since she isn’t the official authority on World Running Affairs, please indulge me for a few minutes while I share my thoughts with you.
Today, I want to talk about a certain feminist mindset or School of thought if you may, that have taken the quote “what a man can do, a woman can do better and in heels”, to an extreme.
In my last post You’re Single. So what? , I briefly brushed through this topic hoping to get into details on a later date. So here I am with the details.
First things first
Firstly, I want to start by saying that I am a Christian. Not by religion but a born again Child of God. The word of God is my only truth. So as I share my thoughts with you, expect to see some references from the bible, which I believe if anyone adheres to, always yields positive results. Always!
That been said, let’s get back to this school of thought which in some ways I believe is erroneous.
I used to be a firm believer in the “what a man can do, a woman can do better” quote, especially when I was an up and coming feminist; more power to women and all that stuff.
Also, the aforementioned quote sounded like a really good comeback for “It’s a man’s world” quote. I could sit and argue for hours about why I felt this isn’t a man’s world and why I thought women were superior to men. Well a lot has changed since then.
I’ve grown, I’ve studied books, especially my bible and I’ve come to realize the reason why this age long argument about who runs the world, has now turned into a movement.
Difference = Strength
The reason is because men and women do not realize the beauty and power in their individual uniqueness. Each gender has strengths and weaknesses. No one’s strengths outweighs the other’s. It’s like the head looking down on the heart because it doesn’t house the brain or the heart looking down on the brain because it doesn’t pump blood.
They are both unique in their structure and functions and they both compliment each other. The brain doesn’t need the heart less than the heart needs it and vice versa.
If both genders can just learn to stay in their lanes, love and appreciate their lanes, then a lot of things won’t be happening in the world as regards gender inequality. For instance, a woman who works as hard as her male colleague in the work place, will earn the same as he does.
And then comes the Feminist extremists
I love my fellow women but there are some sisters who take things too far. Sometimes I just feel like telling them to calm down, it’s not that serious. Being a feminist is okay within certain parameters but when it gets to the extreme, it just gets ugly. The disdain for men just makes these extremists mean spirited.
Some even go as far as wanting absolutely nothing to do with men, including not having children with a man. Who needs men afterall when there’s artificial insemination right? But it makes me wonder, if they despise men so much but still want to have babies, where do these feminist extremists think the donor sperm in the sperm bank come from?
Some even go as far as saying that God is a woman and I’m like, huh??? I’m not even going to get into that because somethings aren’t worth discussing.
I support the ideology behind women supporting each other but women coming together to form a movement that has no regard for the place of a man in this world. That I do not support.
Then there’s the male chauvinists
I appreciate and respect the role men play in the world and in the home. The innate ability to think logically in addition to other abilities is a huge positive. What I do not support nor care for are men who use these God given abilities as an excuse to be domineering. Who have no regards for women because they believe that women are the “weaker sex”. They love to use 1Peter 3:7 where men are admonished to treat their wives AS UNTO the “weaker vessel”, as an excuse to act silly and petty. God didn’t call the woman the weaker vessel. If He did He would be contradicting Himself. Most men, on the other hand see women as weaker vessels.
Sometimes when I’m driving, and I pack in a spot or back out of a space that would be otherwise challenging for some motorists, I hear some ignorant men make side comments like “na woman dey drive o” because they’re shocked that a woman can be a good driver.
Yes I know that a lot of women in my city are terrible at driving so I can understand their shock but that’s not an excuse to be ignorant.
Another example is on Facebook. My profile picture is one my husband and myself but we were both backing the camera. Sometimes when people post interesting stuff and the comments start coming in, I like to chip in my 2 cents and once in a while most people like my contribution. Now the issue isn’t the fact that they liked what I said, it’s the replies I get. Replies like “good point Sir”, “I agree with you my brother”, and so on. So they like my contribution, probably checkout my profile photo, see a man and a woman and immediately the chauvinist part of their brains takeover, so they assume that it has to be the guy in the photo making all this sense because only men can make logical sense or discuss politics from an interesting and intelligent perspective right? WRONG!
What’s the real deal behind the term “weaker vessel”?
This is the reason why it is important to carefully reason through scripture. Not with your human intellect though because that profits nothing when it comes to spiritual things. The Holy Spirit is the one who gives understanding of scripture.
Also it is important to study other translations to help you better interpret the original text.
When God told men to treat their wives AS UNTO the weaker vessel, He didn’t mean our modern day literal interpretation of weak. Like women are too weak to do anything for themselves and they need a man to serve as a support beam. Or when a woman is faced with a challenge, she’ll just break in pieces.
That’s not what God meant by weaker vessel.
Delicate but Strong
God meant that women are physically delicate. A woman’s body was created delicate compared to a man’s body. Women were made this way for good reason. A woman’s bones are less dense compared to a man’s bones.
If women didn’t have delicate features, firstly men wouldn’t be attracted to us.
Having delicate features has absolutely nothing to do with weakness in the literal sense. Something can be delicate yet unbreakable. The things a woman’s body goes through in her life time, will completely destroy any man because men, though posses harder features, weren’t created for such challenges.
Also being treated AS UNTO the weaker vessel has nothing to do with being intellectually or spiritually weak. That has to do with the individual. All through my school days, girls were always the smartest in class.
Weaker vessel ain’t looking so weak right now
I’ve got some more facts to prove to you that God gave women more strength than they are given credit for.
Infant girls learn faster than infant boys. Girls mature faster than boys. A woman can play the role of a mother and a father simultaneously in her children’s lives. That’s why medical science consider children who have lost their mother, as orphans even if they still have their father. Women are great at multitasking.
Research has proved that children get over 60% of their intellect from their mothers.
I can go on and on to show you that a woman’s delicate features do not make her a weak person. That’s why the bible says “weak VESSEL” as in CONTAINER, and not “weak person”. Like I said earlier ‘weak’ in that context means delicate.
Take a look at Proverbs 31:10 to the end and see the attributes of God’s ideal woman, a virtuous woman. That sounds nothing like a weak person.
The ones who love to be weak
The unfortunate thing is that men are not the only ones guilty of misunderstanding the term “weak vessel”. A lot of women have also misunderstood this term and their reaction is either on one extreme or the other.
The first extreme perceive it to be an insult, so everything they do is built around proving to themselves and the world, who couldn’t care less by the way, that they aren’t weak. This is one of the driving forces behind extreme feminist movements.
The second group of women who go to the other extreme, have taken the word “weak” literally and wear it as a badge of honour. They have no desire to be outstanding in anything and are content with mediocrity. Total lack of ambition.
They see the state of being a wife and bearing children as an achievement. The truth is it isn’t. This is not a slight on stay at home mothers because raising good kids is actually an achievement and you deserve to be honoured. But getting married and just giving birth to children, aren’t achievements. If they were, in Proverbs 31, God would’ve simply said “the virtuous woman is wife to one husband and has her nest full of children.” The end.
The point of all I’ve said is, we have created a society where men are constantly trying to put women down and women are going to extremes to prove their worth and to prove that men aren’t worth much.
True strength lies in recognizing our individual uniqueness and knowing how they compliment each other.
Men weren’t created to dominate women. Infact people weren’t created to dominate people, It’s quite clear in Genesis 1:26.
Till next week. That’s all folks. God bless you